It can help at any stage of play, whether you’re pushing your girth limit or you’ve just pulled your pants down. If you’re having difficulty with another toy because its head is blunt, Ringo will open you up.
The long, smooth taper makes it a great stretcher and foreplay tool. Its girth may intimidate you, but no worries: You’ll never need to insert the whole thing. Tantus’ Ringo is a big plug that doubles as an awesome stretcher. I have a separate article dedicated to general butt plug recommendations, so I’ll focus on plugs that work well for stretching your ass. I’ll stick to plugs, since dildos have a lot more variety. If you rush the process, you won’t enjoy it and you might hurt yourself. Stretching yourself for anal sex is going to take several toys, and likely several months.
Even if it’s just a finger or a small plug, it will help them empathize with you and understand what pleasures and difficulties you’re going through. If they’re willing, you should also play with their ass. If you wait to involve them in your anal play until you think you’re ready for sex, they’re going to be a crappy lover. They need to learn what your butt enjoys and what pisses your butt off. Some types of lube can ruin toys or break condoms.ĩ. My personal favourite is Sliquid’s Sassy, but this lube guide will help you find many more great lubes.Īlso consult this lube compatibility chart before you buy anything. It lasts longer than water-based lube and, unlike silicone-based lube, it won’t damage silicone toys.īut coconut oil isn’t the slipperiest lube, so there are better options for thrusting. Too much is barely enough.įor plugging, I recommend coconut oil. You don’t want to believe you’re ready for anal sex only to discover you underestimated your partner’s size.Ĩ. You can’t eyeball a 0.25″ difference in circumference, but your ass will feel the difference. Which means, if your partner is willing, you should measure the circumference of the thickest part of their penis. Even if you could insert a giant 14″ circumference plug, I wouldn’t recommend anal sex until you’ve tried thrusting with a toy as thick as your partner.ħ. Thrusting feels very different from plugging. So before you ever attempt to take a penis, you need to be able to handle a plug that’s about 1″ in circumference thicker.Ħ. You will always be able to handle thicker plugs than dildos or penises, since thrusting is much more stressful on the body. Your sphincters are the tightest part of your ass-particularly your inner sphincter, which is incredibly difficult to relax consciously-so they need the bulk of your attention.ĥ. Their necks are thin, so they’ll give your rectum a good stretch, but they’ll only stretch your sphincters during insertion and removal. A thick neck is your sphincters’ friend.įor example, I wouldn’t recommend b-Vibe’s Snug Plugs. Choose plugs with low bulb-to-neck ratios. I have another article that focuses on long-term plugging tips.Ĥ. Increasing the duration of your plugging isn’t as helpful as increasing the girth of your plugs. You can even sleep while plugged, though you’ll feel sore in the morning. Once you can handle a plug for a few hours per session, you’re ready to size up.īut there’s no need to stop after only a few hours. I think the easiest way to prepare yourself for a thicker toy is to wear your current largest plug long-term.
I think it’s best to stretch yourself with plugs and let the girth of your dildos trail behind by about 1″ in circumference.ģ. I’ve only ever applied this rule to plugs, not dildos. If you try a smaller increment, you may find it too easy and too similar to your previous toy. If you attempt an increment much bigger than this, either it won’t go in or you’ll hurt yourself. This should give you a challenging, yet fun and doable stretch. I recommend sizing up in increments of up to 1″ in circumference, or 0.25″-0.3″ in diameter. Divide your measurement by pi and choose a plug with a diameter as close to this as possible.Ģ. Lube them up, see how many you can fit in your butt, then measure their circumference. But if you want a more exact idea of what size you should begin with, play with your fingers. For anal beginners, a good rule of thumb is to start with a 1″-1.25″ diameter plug. Follow these guidelines and you’ll cry out in pleasure rather than pain.ġ. Whether you want to have anal sex, use bigger dildos, or you simply enjoy feeling stretched, the same principles apply. Training and stretching your ass takes practice and patience.